Sunday, June 12, 2005
Fighting in front of kids
No we aren't having arguments LOL
But it came up in a group discussion today how you shouldn't even have a disagreement or argument in from of your kids. I tend to disagree.
Now maybe dh and I argue differently (when and IF we ever do) we are not the knock down drag out types. Not into the name calling, yelling, screaming and all that BS. But we do have occasional disagreements/arguments.
I think in a healthy relationship (no abuse etc) that your children seeing mom and dad have a disagreement (depending on the subject matter) is healthy too. They need to learn that though there is a conflict Dad and Mom still love each other, they can learn conflict resolution and realize that disagreements are normal.
I think that sheltering your children from that is only harmful. Now I am not saying bring little Johnny or Jane into the argument to take sides lol Or bring them into the room and have them pull up a chair to witness the event or anything. But why hide a normal disagreement? Life is not all sunshine and daisies right?
But it came up in a group discussion today how you shouldn't even have a disagreement or argument in from of your kids. I tend to disagree.
Now maybe dh and I argue differently (when and IF we ever do) we are not the knock down drag out types. Not into the name calling, yelling, screaming and all that BS. But we do have occasional disagreements/arguments.
I think in a healthy relationship (no abuse etc) that your children seeing mom and dad have a disagreement (depending on the subject matter) is healthy too. They need to learn that though there is a conflict Dad and Mom still love each other, they can learn conflict resolution and realize that disagreements are normal.
I think that sheltering your children from that is only harmful. Now I am not saying bring little Johnny or Jane into the argument to take sides lol Or bring them into the room and have them pull up a chair to witness the event or anything. But why hide a normal disagreement? Life is not all sunshine and daisies right?
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I agree, but only if you are modeling good behavior. You and your dh tend to discuss when you disagree, when so many other people yell. I think you guys will be doing the boys a favor if you show them the "right" way to argue.
I agree with you...hard when you get married and expect this fairy tale life...to some extent kids need to see the ins and outs of life...
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