Friday, September 08, 2006
SAHM angst
Before dh and I married we knew one of us was going to be the fulltime parent. He was and is in the Navy. Not exactly the home at dinner time, home for birthdays, holidays and school plays type of job. So I gave up my career when I got pregnant with #2. So almost NINE years now I have not had a "real" job. Along with the no real job comes no real timme away from work, no vacations, no clocking out and going home, No Putting the kids in the desk drawer and heading home to put my feet up have a nice glass of red wine (ahem OK so I have the wine!!). There are times I wish I had a job to go to, but we all know the woman would STILL have all of her duties at home.
DH leaves work. Takes off his unifrom kicksoff his boots and tada he is DONE for the day. He unwinds and relaxes and for the most part I am fine and dandy with it all. He does play with the kids at times
(which I clean up and mend any hurt feelings etc)all while I am trying to get dinner done AND dishes done. Then get the baby cleaned up and entertatined showerd change tucked in and read to. Make sure the older boys have homework done completely and corretly, chores done and there is nothing we need to talk about that didn't get brought up during family dinner.
I do NOT ask for much. However (a word that makes my husband cringe) I would like some me time. SOON enough he is leaving for the better part of a month, then a few months the back onto a ship and who know where in the world he will be. Or where he would see. He las time out The sechelles. Yes OK Tourist trap BUT I would have love to have seen it. Then he went to Australia. I wish I could have seen it with his as well. Am I jealous? No I wouldn't want his job if you paid me!! But I would Love to see some of the ports he has visited. He has said we can go after he retires (3 more years!!!!!!) I want to go to Eurpoe and see EVERYTHING. That won't take too long will it?
Just a bit overwhelmed. Add onto everything the fact we are both about ready start scdhool!!!
Maybe I will stop taking these heavenly little pills that help me sleep so I can do it all!!!
The summary to my rant, Sometimes Moms just need a break and more than 10 minutes without "honey can you change him" or "Mom he hit me" or any myriad of things that make me cringe. With all of that said. My husband DOES try I just don't think he grasps what is going on. As far as husbands go he is certainly not a sit on his ass scratch himself watch TV and belch kind of guy. Just hmmmm smart and "lost in thought" a lot aka unattentive when it really is not what he wants to be doing
DH leaves work. Takes off his unifrom kicksoff his boots and tada he is DONE for the day. He unwinds and relaxes and for the most part I am fine and dandy with it all. He does play with the kids at times
(which I clean up and mend any hurt feelings etc)all while I am trying to get dinner done AND dishes done. Then get the baby cleaned up and entertatined showerd change tucked in and read to. Make sure the older boys have homework done completely and corretly, chores done and there is nothing we need to talk about that didn't get brought up during family dinner.
I do NOT ask for much. However (a word that makes my husband cringe) I would like some me time. SOON enough he is leaving for the better part of a month, then a few months the back onto a ship and who know where in the world he will be. Or where he would see. He las time out The sechelles. Yes OK Tourist trap BUT I would have love to have seen it. Then he went to Australia. I wish I could have seen it with his as well. Am I jealous? No I wouldn't want his job if you paid me!! But I would Love to see some of the ports he has visited. He has said we can go after he retires (3 more years!!!!!!) I want to go to Eurpoe and see EVERYTHING. That won't take too long will it?
Just a bit overwhelmed. Add onto everything the fact we are both about ready start scdhool!!!
Maybe I will stop taking these heavenly little pills that help me sleep so I can do it all!!!
The summary to my rant, Sometimes Moms just need a break and more than 10 minutes without "honey can you change him" or "Mom he hit me" or any myriad of things that make me cringe. With all of that said. My husband DOES try I just don't think he grasps what is going on. As far as husbands go he is certainly not a sit on his ass scratch himself watch TV and belch kind of guy. Just hmmmm smart and "lost in thought" a lot aka unattentive when it really is not what he wants to be doing
